The geek have inherited the earth

DREW: Ellen has such a beautiful body, and I personally battled with my own body image for years. I used to tell myself, You can’t wear anything sleeveless or strapless. And all of a sudden I was like, What if I just didn’t send such negative messages to my brain and said, wear it and enjoy it? And now I’m more comfortable in clothes than ever.ELLEN: That openness. It’s so sexy. DREW: She was in her freaking bra with an open jacket and hot-pink shorts, skating around the rink with red lips and—ELLEN: I was having a really good time. DREW: And she was sexy as a mother—a feral creature. It was great. And it’s so screwed up for girls to think, Oh, because I don’t have that cookie-cutter model body, it must mean I don’t have the right body shape. And I love model bodies, but I just want women to embrace several body shapes. That’s the thing I love about derby. It’s really welcoming.

DREW: Ellen has such a beautiful body, and I personally battled with my own body image for years. I used to tell myself, You can’t wear anything sleeveless or strapless. And all of a sudden I was like, What if I just didn’t send such negative messages to my brain and said, wear it and enjoy it? And now I’m more comfortable in clothes than ever.
ELLEN: That openness. It’s so sexy.
DREW: She was in her freaking bra with an open jacket and hot-pink shorts, skating around the rink with red lips and—
ELLEN: I was having a really good time.
DREW: And she was sexy as a mother—a feral creature. It was great. And it’s so screwed up for girls to think, Oh, because I don’t have that cookie-cutter model body, it must mean I don’t have the right body shape. And I love model bodies, but I just want women to embrace several body shapes. That’s the thing I love about derby. It’s really welcoming.

stophatingyourbody:

Hoorah for body peace!! You do not defeat one oppression by starting another! When we make fun of each other for our body types we enforce the standard! The lesson is, all bodies are beautiful, no better, no worse, we are all different and unique, isn’t that wonderful?!

BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!

killposi:

stfusexists:

the-madame-hatter:

glossylalia:

anarchopunkz:

ballroom-communism:

diffindo-:

this is why i am a feminist

I actually cried when I watched this.

wonderfully done

Everything important.

so well done

Please watch this video. It’s really well done, and very important…it will be 10 minutes of your life well spent, I promise.

WOMENARENOTBILLBOARDS

Idealizing the body prevents everyone, able-bodied and disabled, from identifying with and loving her/his body. Some people can have the illusion of acceptance that comes from believing that their bodies are “close enough” to the ideal, but this illusion only draws them deeper into identifying with the ideal and into the endless task of reconciling the reality with it. Sooner or later they must fail.

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—	Susan Wendell - Toward a Feminist Theory of Disability (via nodogsnomasters)

yeahgrrrl:

thepeachtrees:

hhahhaahahh

not all ladies wear makeup or care but this is funny!!!

I have noticed this kind of thinking with girls that wear a lot of make-up everyday. Relax girls, you are beautiful!

I’m going to a summer cottage over the weekend with some girlfriends of mine and I will take the bikini instead of the one-piece that always makes me feel nice and secure of my body. And I will love my body and not hate it.

Now I have written it down and I can’t back out of it, hmphfr!

Killing Us Softly 4: Advertising’s Image of Women

This is still just as important as it was the first time I reblogged this.

The day I realized that the cultural ideal of femininity was, quite literally, unattainable? The day I realized that women are supposed to be sexy and chaste, undemanding and seeking commitment, meek delicate flowers and strong backbones of the family? The day I realized that if you’re tall you’re supposed to look shorter, and if you’re short you’re supposed to look taller, and if you’re fat you’re supposed to look thinner, and if you’re thin you’re supposed to look more voluptuous, and that whatever body type you had you were supposed to make it look different? The day I realized that every woman is insecure about her looks… including the ones we’re supposed to idolize? The day I realized that, no matter what I did, no matter how hard I worked, I would always, always, always be a failure as a woman?

That was the day I quit worrying about it.

If the world is telling you that if you work just a little bit harder, you can be strong enough, pretty enough, rich enough, whatever enough… you’ll be a lot more tempted to keep running that treadmill, keep chasing the carrot that’s dangling in front of you. But if the world is telling you that if you work just a little bit harder, you can turn yourself into a unicorn and start shitting diamonds? The whole thing just becomes laughable. And it becomes a whole lot easier to step off the treadmill. Obviously the cultural expectations still affect you — I’m not claiming to be free of them, I don’t think anyone is — but it’s a lot easier to see them for what they are, and shrug them off, and get on with your life.

So guys? Listen up.

The world is telling you to turn yourself into a unicorn and start shitting diamonds.

The world is giving you an impossible task. It’s not just a stupid task; it’s not just a pointless task; it’s not just a needlessly confining task; it’s not just a task that will make you miserable. It is, quite literally, unattainable. You will never, ever be man enough.

So stop giving a damn. And be whoever you are.

Be a whisky-drinking electronic music nerd who mixes a perfect Manhattan. Be a dialog editor who bakes banana bread and does stand-up comedy. Be a tattooed poet and kettlebell competitor. Be a retired soldier who does English folk dancing. Be a software engineer with waist-length hair and a thing for Michelin-star restaurants. Be a French-speaking rare book collector who calls into sports radio talk shows. Be a porn writer and atheist activist with eighteen cats. Be a muscle-bound gym rat who sings opera and cries in public.

Be who you are. That’s actually an attainable goal. And it’s a hell of a lot more fun.

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Wealthy, Handsome, Strong, Packing Endless Hard-Ons: The Impossible Ideals Men Are Expected to Meet | Gender | AlterNet (via y00h00)

*nods*

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I love this. It all just makes sense, regardless of your gender. Also all the people in that last paragraph sound glorious and super interesting. Note to self: must internalize this advice and stop stressing about being a unicorn.

Though, I gotta say, if going to the gym would actually turn me into an honest-to-god unicorn, I would be there EVERY SINGLE DAY.

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